The art of connection
The Art of Connection
When we feel good about the people in our lives and how we relate to them, we feel connected, supported and loved. Life feels good and meaningful. But many of us struggle in our relationships and life can lose its luster.
For most of us our primary relationship with our romantic partner is both the one that gives us the most, and can be the most difficult. We get into a partnership because it gives us joy, a sense of belonging, and a place to love and be loved.
When things go wrong, it can really shake us and take away our sense of
well-being.
We may find ourselves in the same arguments over and over again. Saying things we regret and feeling wounded by the things our partner says to us. We can feel we have to fight for what is right or that it is too risky to say what we really think or feel.
Sometimes it seems that all we do is talk about the logistics of life, especially when we are raising children. We share grocery lists and forget to share our dreams. We may feel like roommates rather than lovers. We can't find the affection or remember what brought us together.
'I feel the same in this relationship as I did growing up.'
Relationships can bring up our core wounds and throw us back into old patterns of behavior. Patterns that were usually developed when we were young children trying to figure out how to survive.
Relationship counseling allows us to approach our issues from another perspective, to discover what's being activated in us and gaining tools to both address those issues and interact in a different way. Therapy can help decrease painful conflict and increase a sense of love and connection.